Home » Posts tagged 'Genesis'
Tag Archives: Genesis
Last week my husband had to be in San Diego for a doctor’s appointment. We decided to turn it into a fun trip for just the two of us. We had 4 wonderful days together with no distractions. No meetings, appointments, car pools, cleaning or helping with homework. It was wonderful!
The drive down was long. I was exhausted from the busy past few weeks so it was nice to sit and relax with nothing to do for hours. We did stop for breakfast in Santa Nella at our favorite stop, Andersen’s Pea Soup Restaurant. For many years it was our family tradition to stop there with the kids on the way down to Disneyland. Although, the past few years we haven’t stopped. We’re usually in such a rush to get to Disneyland so we could start having ‘fun’ we missed out on the interesting conversation we always have when sitting around a table together.
We arrived in San Diego by mid afternoon. We had a beautiful view from our room and were able to watch several military boats head out to sea. The evening was filled with walking around the Gaslamp district. With so many restaurant choices it was hard to decide where to eat. We finally ended up at Fred’s Mexican Café. The food was delicious! I highly recommend it to anyone who enjoys Mexican food.
The first day of our getaway was heaven! The second day didn’t start off so well. Our GPS decided to take us the long way around to the doctor’s office and it was a little confusing to understand where to turn. So with each turn we missed it had us go further and further out of our way. Now that I think back to the situation, it’s pretty funny. However, at the time, it was very stressful. Robert was freaking out convinced we were going to miss the appointment and acting as if we already had. It took everything in me not to lecture him about his attitude. Thankfully, when we arrived at the doctor’s office the doctor was running late too!
The appointment went well and within a few hours we were back on the road, heading for Disneyland! We spent the next 2 days holding hands while walking around Disneyland. It felt as if we were in a fairytale. I experienced Disneyland in a way I never had before. Being able to look at and experience everything without having children pulling me in multiple directions was magical! While standing in some of the lines a recording would come on saying something like “…keep your hands and feet in, and please, watch your children”. We would look at each other and laugh every time, because we didn’t have any with us.
A few times while in Disneyland we were asked if we were celebrating anything. Robert would always tell them we were celebrating how a year ago I gave him a kidney and saved his life. Each time it opened up the door for us to share our faith with them. We had some amazing God centered conversations with different employees of Disneyland. It was absolutely beautiful.
I know we each have busy schedules and it’s hard to make time for our spouses. I’ve learned the importance of spending time together, with no distractions. I also believe God will bless us and our families when we do this. Whether it be snuggling up on the couch watching a movie, having a meal together, or getting away for a day. It’s important to take the time to connect.
Remember Genesis 2:18 says The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
I don’t think we can be the helper God created us to be for our spouse if we are not connected, committed, to our spouse. I believe spending time together is important.
My prayer for us today ~ Lord, I thank you for creating the man as the spiritual leader and the woman as his helper. I pray you give us each the desire to fulfill our role in a way that is glorifying to You, Amen
On Monday, Oct 14th, Robert & I will be celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary. I’m ebarrassed to say this, but I thought our anniversary was Oct 12th. I can’t believe I forgot what day we were married. I use to be so good at remembering dates. Now I’m lucky to remember what day of the week it is. I need to start playing games on that brain exercise website, but I can’t remember what it’s called. 😃 So how did I realize I was wrong? My wonderful, sweet husband. I’m not saying it sarcastically either. I’m serious!
Last night Robert, my husband, says “I must really be losing it, because I thought our wedding anniversary was October 14th.” Then he continues saying “You’re the one who’s best at keeping track of that stuff, so it must be October 12th.” Suddenly I wasn’t so sure. Thankfully I was able to look at the Certificate of Marriage on the wall under our wedding photo, which clearly states October 14th as our wedding day. So how sweet was that for him to doubt himself not me. Then when I told him he was right he didn’t give me a hard time for forgetting when we were married.
Before I was a Christian I thought marriage was simply two people coming together to have a family, each person having individual responsibilities. I thought both had to work to be able to afford the things the world said were important, but the man was ultimately responsible for taking care of the family’s financial needs while the woman took care of the house and kids.
After becoming a Christian I learned God created man, who wasn’t meant to be alone, so a woman was created to be his helper (Genesis 2:18). I love that! Not a servant or the boss, but a helper.
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18
My husband keeps me grounded. I don’t know what I would do without him. I rely on him for so much. Where I am lacking, like cooking, he is efficient. We have a deal, he cooks & I clean. He enjoys cooking for others and is good at it. The same way I enjoy (obsess with) cleaning and can be good at it. When we work together we accomplish a lot, with time to spend together.
The great thing is, every couple & family, is different. The world tries to put marriage & families in a box. Like there is only one way to do it. God created each of us uniquely different. We each have different strengths and weaknesses. God made man and woman to work well together, to be together. Genesis 2:24 talks about a man united to his wife and becoming one flesh.
So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:21-24
Each couple needs to figure out how to do things together, however, they can’t do it on their own. They must each put God first and then their spouse 2nd, before themselves. I don’t mean never getting to do anything for yourself. I mean we should always communicate with our spouse before doing anything and consider how it will affect them.
This was such a foreign concept for me. I didn’t know how to be the helper my husband needed or even how to let my husband help me. My friend suggested I pray daily for my husband. That seemed weird at first too. Then I was given a daily devotional, The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. This helped me focus on God and listen to what He wanted/planned for our marriage.
My Prayer for us today ~ Lord, thank you for giving us the gift of marriage. I pray you equip us to be the helper you created us to be, Amen