About a year ago, my daughter, Ashley, finished her first week of college. I think I was just as nervous and excited as she was. I had spent a lot of time praying over all the details I could think of so she would have a smooth transition into the college life. She would continue living at home, so there wasn’t going to be as big of a transition that some new college students had to make. Although, I think she would have been fine dealing with that transition. I’m thankful I didn’t need to walk through that transition quite yet, because I wasn’t ready. I don’t think I’ll ever really be ready.
My daughter now has her first year of college behind her and I think it went well. She switched from studying Film to Animation sometime during the first half of the year. At first I was concerned about the switch because it would cause her to be behind the scheduled ‘plan’, but all of the details have worked out. We had a glitch with the State Grant, but the school has helped us come up with a plan and Ashley is dealing with it very well. Even though it’s causing her to put much more effort into completing her degree. All in all, I’m very proud of her.
For me, Ashley’s first year of college was pretty easy. Almost effortless.
Ashley’s second year of college has barely begun and there has been one transition after another. Transitions that my daughter has handled very well. No big deal, all a part of being an adult. For me, the mom, well, it’s extremely hard for me not to freak out. I’ve been spending more time than usual praying. Why? Because I’m afraid I will push my daughter away and annoy everyone around me by my freaking out. You see, I like to know what’s going on in my daughter’s life, so I ask a lot of questions. Recently, over dinner, my husband asked me if I was done playing 20 questions and asked Ashley if she felt like she was on trial.
So you’re probably wondering what these transitions are that I’ve had a hard time with. The first one happened a few months ago, when Ashley said she had a date. To most moms of college age kids this is no big deal. To this mom it was a big deal, because this was Ashley’s first date. When she first told me, I had so many questions. I have to admit, it was hard to control myself. I had to carefully think through each question. She hesitated telling me where the first date was going to be until she found out I was going to be out of town. Like I would stalk her and her date or something. Okay, so the thought did cross my mind.
Ashley has been on several dates with this young man. We even got to meet him at the bowling alley and play a few games with him. I’m very proud of myself because I didn’t ask a thousand questions and I did my best to seem ‘normal’. My husband asked him more questions than I did, but he’s the cop, so I expected it. I don’t know if Ashley’s ‘friend’ expected it, but his answers were acceptable. I think he’s coming to the house for dinner soon, so this transition is being handled well by all…..so far. 😉
The second transition, which I’m not dealing with as well as the first, is a class my daughter is taking this quarter. It’s called Life Drawing. It’s a class where the students learn to draw real people. For some reason, a reason I do not understand, the people who teach this class feel the students need to learn how to draw people with no clothes on. Yes, they are drawing a naked person! So every week, a nude person will be in my daughter’s class, so she, along with an entire class of students, can draw them. My daughter tried to explain to me that every art student has to take the class because it’s about drawing. I’m sorry, I don’t get it. What’s wrong with drawing flowers and cute animals? As a parent I work very hard to keep my children from being exposed to certain things and now I’m paying for this class that she is required to take. A class I don’t understand the importance of. Seriously, why can’t the model in the class wear a bathing suit? I’m curious, how many students who have ever taken this kind of class needed to draw a naked person outside of this class? Does a bathing suit vs. no bathing suit hinder the student’s ability in learning to draw?
I can go on and on, but I wont. I think you get my point. I now refer to her class Life Drawing as the Unnecessary Awkward Naked class. She has completed one week of the class and has 10 more to go. I would appreciate prayers for my daughter to handle the class gracefully and take away a better understanding of drawing. I could really use the extra prayers too. Prayers not to overwhelm my daughter with questions, but seek God’s opportunities to discuss what is going on in her life. Also for prayers to let the little things that I cannot control go.
My prayer for us today ~ Father God, thank you for being there in the moments we freak out. Thank you for wisdom and discernment when we seek it from You. I pray we seek You in all things, even the little things, so we are not overwhelmed by them, Amen.