I am so excited! I have to share how amazing and hysterical God is. For those who don’t know, I’m a numbers geek. Excel is my favorite software program. To me, working with numbers is like working on a wonderful puzzle. No emotions or feelings can change it. 2 + 2 will always equal 4.
My husband does not share this same passion of numbers. He often says “Math is not my best friend”. I agree and would even go as far to say math isn’t even a friend of his.
Money has always caused a lot of stress and arguments in our marriage, especially around Christmas. My husband would like to buy wonderful gifts for everyone, which is great, I would like to also. The problem is our money coming in (income) doesn’t increase just because our money going out (expenses) increase. We need to plan ahead, to save, for these occasions.
My husband is the spender in our family. I’m the grinch when it comes to money. I write out a budget each month showing money in and money out. I factor in things like haircuts, birthday gifts, back to school or summer items, etc. Then at the bottom it shows what “play” money we have or extra money there is, if any.
I try to explain it to my husband but all he sees is the money coming in. Then all month long as I pay our bills I’m worried I’m going to bounce a check because my husband spends the money before the bill payments hit the bank. I do continually remind him we have no extra money until the next check comes in, but he still continues to spend. Coffee drinks, burgers or downloading music. The crazy part is when I ask him about it, it’s always “it was only one”. He doesn’t realize each dollar spent needs to be subtracted from the money available to spend. Remember, math is not his friend.
To get to the amazing hysterical part…….In the past, whenever I’ve tried to get my husband involved in our finances he’s always made it clear he trusted me and didn’t want to deal with it. The thought of money stressed him out and he had enough to stress about, so the finances were all on me.
I’ve been praying, for a while, for my husband to get a clue about our money situation or for God to help me explain it to him in a way that he would understand.
My husband is the Small Group Coordinator at our church and a few months ago he said he wanted to bring the Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University course to our church. At the time I had no idea what it was. I didn’t think my husband really had a clue either because it had the word financial in it.
To make a long story short…..my husband has been organizing, planning and promoting this course at our church and it will begin in January. That’s pretty amazing right! Well the hysterical part is we are taking this course together and working with the couple who will be facilitating it, so if we do it again at our church we will be able to facilitate it together! My husband even says he is excited about learning how to manage our money together.
My prayer for us today ~ Lord, I pray we remain alert to recognize when & how you answer our prayers so we don’t miss opportunities you bring our way, Amen