On Monday, Oct 14th, Robert & I will be celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary. I’m ebarrassed to say this, but I thought our anniversary was Oct 12th. I can’t believe I forgot what day we were married. I use to be so good at remembering dates. Now I’m lucky to remember what day of the week it is. I need to start playing games on that brain exercise website, but I can’t remember what it’s called. 😃 So how did I realize I was wrong? My wonderful, sweet husband. I’m not saying it sarcastically either. I’m serious!
Last night Robert, my husband, says “I must really be losing it, because I thought our wedding anniversary was October 14th.” Then he continues saying “You’re the one who’s best at keeping track of that stuff, so it must be October 12th.” Suddenly I wasn’t so sure. Thankfully I was able to look at the Certificate of Marriage on the wall under our wedding photo, which clearly states October 14th as our wedding day. So how sweet was that for him to doubt himself not me. Then when I told him he was right he didn’t give me a hard time for forgetting when we were married.
Before I was a Christian I thought marriage was simply two people coming together to have a family, each person having individual responsibilities. I thought both had to work to be able to afford the things the world said were important, but the man was ultimately responsible for taking care of the family’s financial needs while the woman took care of the house and kids.
After becoming a Christian I learned God created man, who wasn’t meant to be alone, so a woman was created to be his helper (Genesis 2:18). I love that! Not a servant or the boss, but a helper.
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18
My husband keeps me grounded. I don’t know what I would do without him. I rely on him for so much. Where I am lacking, like cooking, he is efficient. We have a deal, he cooks & I clean. He enjoys cooking for others and is good at it. The same way I enjoy (obsess with) cleaning and can be good at it. When we work together we accomplish a lot, with time to spend together.
The great thing is, every couple & family, is different. The world tries to put marriage & families in a box. Like there is only one way to do it. God created each of us uniquely different. We each have different strengths and weaknesses. God made man and woman to work well together, to be together. Genesis 2:24 talks about a man united to his wife and becoming one flesh.
So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:21-24
Each couple needs to figure out how to do things together, however, they can’t do it on their own. They must each put God first and then their spouse 2nd, before themselves. I don’t mean never getting to do anything for yourself. I mean we should always communicate with our spouse before doing anything and consider how it will affect them.
This was such a foreign concept for me. I didn’t know how to be the helper my husband needed or even how to let my husband help me. My friend suggested I pray daily for my husband. That seemed weird at first too. Then I was given a daily devotional, The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. This helped me focus on God and listen to what He wanted/planned for our marriage.
My Prayer for us today ~ Lord, thank you for giving us the gift of marriage. I pray you equip us to be the helper you created us to be, Amen